Whose Phone Number is This on My Husband's Cell

by Lana
(New Jersey)

Whose Number is This on My Husband's Cell?

I found out my husband was cheating on me because I looked through his text messages on his cell phone and found romantic banter between them. Sure, the emails from her that I would look at when he would get up from his computer, the credit card statements with charges from restaurants I had never been to with him, and his complete 180 in personality all gave me solid grounds to think he was cheating, but the text messages sealed the deal. Whose phone number is this on my husband's cell?

I was so fed up with not knowing if he really was cheating or not I almost hired a private detective. I'm glad I did the footwork myself and found out whose phone number is his on my husband's cell. In the end I feel like discovering the messages myself made me more confident and able to stand up to him through the divorce. I knew he was spending a lot of time with her, and I suspected that he was cheating on me with her, and when I did ask him if he was sleeping with her, or in a relationship with her, he would flatly say 'No.' and ask me if I was sleeping with one of my male friends (which I wasn't), implying that they were just friends.

I got so fed up with his lies, and his abusive treatment that I had to know for sure what was going on between them. One day while he was in the shower, I found his cell phone in his pocket. I locked the bedroom door and scrolled through his text messages. Go figure, there were so many from her in there that I was only able to read about 10 before I got nervous and put his phone back. In those 10 most recent texts I found a goldmine of information; 'Kisses', 'I miss you so much, are you staying again tonight?', 'Last night was AMAZING! xoxo'.


For a moment I thought to myself that it is possible they are just friends, like he claims, and then I came to my senses. Who writes to their co-worker 'Last night was AMAZING!' via text message? Only a co-worker that you're sleeping with. I never revealed to him that I read his emails or looked through his phone, but it was really nice to know in the back of my mind that he wasn't leaving me for all the fake reasons he gave, or that he was leaving because of anything I had done wrong.

He's happily married to her now, they have a house, and I'm happy that he's happy because there is no way our marriage would have lasted if he was in love with someone else. I've moved on, in a long term relationship, and I'm much stronger for all of the nonsense he put me through, it was a tough but valuable life lesson. In the end I found out "Whose phone number is this on my husband's cell?"